... my students speak from personal experience.
Usually it's about the death of a parent, child or sibling -- other times it's about being a stripper or having a cousin get the death penalty.
When my students speak of direct experiences in war, it always gives me pause. Many of those experiences are as members of the US military -- but, it's becoming more common for students to start a sentence with, 'when I lived in ________, there was a war'.
It makes me remember that, while I have theoretical knowledge of war and a dissertation on the ethics of warfare, they've been there --- on both sides.