tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17577430.post116764918038992719..comments2024-03-17T02:17:34.680-05:00Comments on Philosophy Factory: Feminism and changing names...Inside the Philosophy Factoryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12255753259090709877noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17577430.post-1169678119113877052007-01-24T16:35:00.000-06:002007-01-24T16:35:00.000-06:00I think the important thing is whatever personal r...I think the important thing is whatever personal reasons each one has for taking (or not) a different last name. In my case it's certainly not feminism, but more of a cultural thing (in my country we don't change last names when we get married -- we all have 2 last names: dad, mom). But to me it all comes down to other people respecting whatever choices we make ourselves :)Super Babehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05929427198908468260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17577430.post-1169323108698499162007-01-20T13:58:00.000-06:002007-01-20T13:58:00.000-06:00This is completely superficial, but for me it will...This is completely superficial, but for me it will depend on how much I like his name versus my current name.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17577430.post-1168798904130837642007-01-14T12:21:00.000-06:002007-01-14T12:21:00.000-06:00Thanks for posting this! I'm getting married and t...Thanks for posting this! I'm getting married and taking my fiance's name in November, and a lot of those around me have been surprised and even offended. There is, again, the sense that I'm not going to get my PhD in my "own name," but I dislike my last name, and while I love my father, I don't love most of his extended family (I, too, actually considered changing my name to my mother's maiden name and simply keeping that).<BR/><BR/>My fiance has expressed support for anything I'd like to do. My mother has, too, although she reminded me that the reason she kept my father's name after their divorce was that it was my name, and she really liked having the same name as her daughter just for convenience. All of this, plus disliking my birth last name and wanting to take the name of the man I'm choosing to be with, as you mentioned, convinced me that I do want to change my name. It's nice to hear someone else express similar feelings more eloquently!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17577430.post-1168440759486854452007-01-10T08:52:00.000-06:002007-01-10T08:52:00.000-06:00You definitely thought the whole thing through, an...You definitely thought the whole thing through, and that's what matters. I wonder how I would have felt differently if my last name were my dad's, since I don't ever see him, instead of my mom's, who's a super close friend. <BR/><BR/>I think for same-sex couples it's much more common for both to keep names, hyphenate, or make up a new one, and I think that's because there's less of a feeling of "tradition" when you don't have one man and one woman, but people do what is empowering for them. What's not helpful is to act like a douchebag about someone else's decisions.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17577430.post-1167719835705211182007-01-02T00:37:00.000-06:002007-01-02T00:37:00.000-06:00Is that a genealogy thing?Is that a genealogy thing?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17577430.post-1167716931141469682007-01-01T23:48:00.000-06:002007-01-01T23:48:00.000-06:00Could you just make up an entirely different name ...Could you just make up an entirely different name like from scratch or it does have to be his and yours?<BR/><BR/>BTW, Philosophy Factory, I insist that you guys share your opinion on the name front thing. I want my next marriage to work too.<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>Divorcee From Hell-e-oAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17577430.post-1167679310470460442007-01-01T13:21:00.000-06:002007-01-01T13:21:00.000-06:00My mom chose to take my dad's name, mainly because...My mom chose to take my dad's name, mainly because her maiden name was long and hard to pronounce. When I marry, I intend to hyphenate. I like my last name, but also would like to share a last name with my husband.<BR/><BR/>I've also come across the knee-jerk "keep your name" and "take his name" camps. Both strike me as somewhat annoying - I don't think that there's such a thing as a universal 'right' decision when it comes to names.Bella Sultanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10567704873144893739noreply@blogger.com